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First thing you must be is a Friend
A friend that is trusted to the end

Second a Courtship must take place
In order for her to fall in love with your face

Third is up to you here is your chance
Build a fire in her heart with Romance

Fourth, you must develop a Passion within her
To see only you as her lifelong partner

Fifth is the best of all for both concerned
It is the Intimacy that you both will yearn

If you allow any of the five stages to be lacking
Don’t be surprised when she sends you packing

One of the most difficult parts of a long distance or online relationship is handling the fact that you are not physically there with your partner. This lack of physical presence can make the whole relationship seem like an illusion. I am sure that almost every person in an LDR has wondered at some point about whether the relationship was actually real or just wishful thinking. With this in mind, it is very important to create a presence for yourself in your partner’s life to provide a stable reality that you are a couple and that you are a part of one another. Listed below are some ideas and resources to help you achieve this.

Communication

Don’t fall out of touch, even for a short time

Return all e-mails at the earliest opportunity

If you are going out of town or are otherwise going to be unable to respond, let your partner know as soon as possible so they don’t think something is wrong or start to have doubts.

Keep all online dates.

Talk regularly through voice chat or via the telephone

Your voice adds that touch of reality to the relationship and makes you more than just text on a screen

Video Chat if possible or at least send pictures regularly

Can you imagine how differently you would feel if you could actually see your partner when you talk to them? You can bet that they would feel the same. Rather than having to imagine how you looked when you laughed or smiled, they could actually see it.

It nullify’s any of those doubts you have about whether they will like the way you look.

Get to know as much as you can about each other

Tell your partner about your day to day life, your friends, your relatives, your job etc. Make them feel like they are an integral part of your life. At the same time, find out as much as you can about them too

Be there when needed

One of the worst mistakes you can make in any relationship is to not be there for your partner when they need you. This is especially true of a long distance relationship as there are already inherent doubts and this will just reinforce those doubts.

Seek your partner’s advice, listen to what they say and make them feel special and important to you.

Love
Love is the backbone of any relationship. As long as the other partner feels that you completely and unconditionally love them, those doubts will not have a chance to creep in. It is up to you to make sure they know exactly how you feel about them. Some ideas include:

Reinforce your affection with poems, stories and love letters
Send them care packages, postcards and gifts
Create a personalized love craft and send it to them

Presence
Make sure you have a presence in your partner’s life. Continually reinforce the fact that you are there, that this relationship is real and there is no way that you are going to let a little thing like distance get in your way. If you do the things listed above, you will create a good presence in your relationship.

At last a guy has taken the time to write this
all down. Finally, the guys’ side of the story.
(I must admit, it’s pretty good.)

We always hear "the rules" from the female
side. Now here are the rules from the male
side. These are our rules!
Learn to work the toilet seat.
You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it
down. We need it up, you need it down.
You don’t hear us complaining about
you leaving it down.

Sunday sports. It’s like the full moon
or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we
are never going to think of it that way.

Crying is blackmail.

Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this
one:
Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not
work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

Yes and No are perfectly acceptable
answers to almost every question.

Come to us with a problem only if you want
help solving it.
That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your
girlfriends are for.

A headache that lasts for 17 months is a
problem.
See a doctor.

Anything we said 6 months ago is
inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void
after 7 days.

If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret
girls,
don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.

If you think you’re fat, you probably are.
Don’t ask us.

If something we said can be interpreted two
ways and
one of the ways makes you sad or angry,
we meant the other one.

You can either ask us to do something or tell
us how
you want it done. Not both. If you already
know
best how to do it, just do it yourself.

Whenever possible, please say whatever
you have to say during commercials.

Christopher Columbus did not need
directions and neither do we.

ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows
default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color.
Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea
what mauve is.

If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.

If we ask what is wrong and you
say "nothing," we will act
like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying,
but it is
just not worth the hassle.

If you ask a question you don’t want
an answer to, expect an answer you don’t
want to hear.

When we have to go somewhere,
absolutely anything you wear is fine…Really.

Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about
unless you are prepared
to discuss such topics as baseball,
the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.

You have enough clothes.

You have too many shoes.

I am in shape. Round is a shape.

Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I
have to sleep on
the couch tonight; but did you know men
really
don’t mind that? It’s like camping.

Just because no one has been fortunate
enough to realize what a gold mine you are,
doesn’t mean you shine any less.

Just because no one has been smart enough
to figure out that you can’t be topped, doesn’t
stop you from being the best.

Just because no one has come along to share
your life, doesn’t mean that day isn’t coming.

Just because no one has made this race
worth while, doesn’t give you permission
to stop running.

Just because no one has come to take the
loneliness away, doesn’t mean you have to
settle for a lower quality.

Just because no one has shown up who
can love you on your level, doesn’t mean
you have to sink to theirs.

Just because you deserve the very best
there is, doesn’t mean that life is always fair.

Just because God is still preparing your
king/ queen doesn’t mean that you’re not already
a Queen/ King.

Just because your situation doesn’t seem
to be progressing right now, doesn’t mean
you need to change a thing.

Keep shining,
Keep running,
Keep hoping,
Keep praying,
Keep being exactly what you are already:….
COMPLETE!

Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath. If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don’t take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don’t want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.

Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don’t wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey. And don’t wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss. Slightly moist lips makes it easier to move your lips over your partner’s and gives both you and your partner a more pleasant experience.

Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly to one side. If you don’t, don’t worry about it. Your partner will still tilt their head slightly so your lips meet on a slight angle or they will kiss you straight on. If you can see which way your partner’s head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.

Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes. Kissing with your eyes open, looking into one another’s eyes while you kiss, can be very erotic and some people find it quite enjoyable. You may want to try kissing this way once you’re more comfortable kissing your partner.

Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner’s lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner’s. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.

Closed Lips - This is like the type of kiss you’d give your grandma or aunt. Instead of opening your mouth when your lips meet, keep them closed. This is also a good way of letting your partner know this is as far as it goes. It also makes a great hello/good-bye kiss or a great first time kiss if you’re nervous.

Hands - There are many ways you can use your hands during a kiss. The most popular way is to put one hand on your partner’s waist and the other one against the middle of their back. Other ways to use your hands are to cup your partner’s face in your hands (very romantic!), put them around your partner’s neck, put them around their waist, hold your partner’s upper or lower arms gently, run your finger’s through their hair, or just hold their hands in yours.

1. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.

2. Guys hate flirts.

3. A guy can like you for a minute, and then forget you afterwards.

4. When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.

5. "Are you doing something?" or "Have you eaten already?" are the first usual questions a guy asks on the phone just to get out from stammering.

6. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

7. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.

8. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.

9. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.

10. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.

11. When guys want to meet your parents. Let them.

12. Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they sure have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking!

13. Guys cry!!!

14. Don’t provoke(irritate) the guy to heat up. Believe me. He will.

15. Guys can never dream and hope too much.

16. Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.

17. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.

18. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh…never mind!" would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking.

19. Guys go crazy when girls touch their hands.

20. Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like.

21. When a guy makes a prolonged "umm" or makes any excuses when you’re asking him to do you a favor, he’s actually saying that he doesn’t like you and he can’t lay down the card for you.

22. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow."

23. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.

24. Guys hate gays!

25. Guys love their moms.

26. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.

27. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.

28 You can never understand him unless you listen to him.

29. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.

30. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.

31. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.

32. Guys are very open about themselves.

33. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.

34. No guy is bad when he is courting

35. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.

36. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.

37. Your best friend, whom your boyfriend seeks help from about his problems with you may end up being admired by your boyfriend.

38. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice.

39. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.

40. A guy finds ways to keep you off from linking with someone else.

41. Guys love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts.

42. Guys try to find the stuffed toy a girl wants but would unluckily get the wrong one.

43. Guys virtually brag about anything.

44. Guys cannot keep secrets that girls tell them.

45. Guys think too much.

46. Guys’ fantasies are unlimited.

47. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does!

48. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!

49. When a girl makes the boy suffer during courtship, it would be hard for him to let go of that girl.

50. It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.

**51. You have to tell a guy what you really want before getting involved with that guy.

52. A guy has to experience rejection, because if he’s too-good-never-been-busted, never been in love and hurt, he won’t be matured and grow up.

53. When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.

54. Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.

55. Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.

56. When a guy pretends to be calm, check if he’s sweating. You’ll probably see that he is nervous.

57. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl. He really is.

58. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he’s just actually saying,"Please come and listen to me"

59. Guys don’t really have final decisions.

60. When a guy loves you, bring out the best in him.

61. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him.

62. If a guy has been kept shut or silent, say something.

63. Guys believe that there’s no such thing as love at first sight, but court the girls anyway and then realize at the end that he is wrong.

64. Guys like femininity not feebleness.*

65. Guys don’t like girls who punch harder than they do.

66. A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.

67. A guy would waste his time over video games and basketball, the way a girl would do over her romance novels and make-ups.

68. Guys love girls who can cook or bake.

69. Guys like girls who are like their moms. No kidding!

70. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

71. A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.

72. Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.

73. Don’t be biased. Try loving a guy without prejudice and you’ll be surprised.***********

74. Girls who bathe in their eau de perfumes do more repelling than attracting guys.

75. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.

76. Guys don’t comprehend the statement "Get lost" too well.

77. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions but still love them more.

78. When a guy gives a crooked or pretentious grin at your jokes, he finds them offending and he just tried to be polite.

79. Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.

80. Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them,they’ll realize they’re wrong.

81. Any guy can handle his problems all by his own. He’s just too stubborn to deal with it.

82. Guys find it so objectionable when a girl swears.

83. Guys’ weakest point is at the knee.

84. When a problem arises, a guy usually keeps himself cool but is already thinking of a way out.

85. When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.

86. When a guy looks at you, either he’s amazed of you or he’s criticizing you.

87. When you catch him cheating on you and he asks for a second chance,give it to him. But when you catch him again and he asks for another chance,ignore him.

88. If a guy lets you go, he really loves you.

89. If you have a boyfriend, and your boy best friend always glances at u and it obviously shows that he is jealous whenever you’re with your boyfriend, all I can say is your boy best friend loves you more than your boyfriend does.

90. Guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.

91. You can tell if a guy is really hurt or in pain when he cries in front of you!

92. If a guy suddenly asks you for a date, ask him first why.

93. When a guy says he can’t sleep if he doesn’t hear your voice even just for one night, hang up. He also tells that to another girl. He only flatters you and sometimes makes fun of you.

94. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.

95. Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.

96. Girls are allowed to touch boys’ things. Not their hair!

97. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.

98. Guys hate girls who overreact.

99. Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.